Queen Sugar Tailspin 

Ahhhh Queen Sugar. This week, which I am pretty much calling ‘Charley and the Angry Ponytail’, opens with Charley in the fetal position not answering any of Aunt Vi’s probing questions. Micah is exposed to far too much and Ralph Angel managed to get even finer this episode. Aunt Vi is heartbroken, Nova is irritating as all hell and Remy is just a super duper do gooder. Oh, and to top it all off: a storm is coming. Lets dive into it. 

Charley is in a chair depressed thinking about just how terrible her husband is and gets a case of the sads. Aunt Vi wants to help, but in a very Carrie after Big ditched her at the altar scene- Charley just can’t deal. Vi goes to “get her feet done” since Hollywood is coming back. She is such an old lady. LOL. Charley gets dressed for the day and even though I loved her blazer A. It is hot in LA and B. I didn’t want to see her in it the ENTIRE day. Geez. Anyhoo, she goes to talk to Micah letting him know his dad sucks and they will stay. Micah is upset, rightfully so and goes into the typical teenage angst. She then discovers when trying to make a payment for farm equipment that her account is popped. Allllll because of Nova. She storms over and gives her a full piece of her mind. After meeting with her uber annoying sister she heads to breakfast with Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory. This only leads to her thinking he is trying to use her since he now needs employment per his P.O. She basically has a tantrum, storms out, lashes out and is comforted by Remy who apologizes for everyone who doesn’t. WHATTTT! Super sweet. Her funk (both assumed because of that hot blazer and attitude) continues throughout the day even into Hollywood’s Crab Boil Welcome Back Fest. Remy tells her she hasn’t grieved. He discussed his wife and talked about how you have to let grief have its way with you and respect it. The amount of tears I shed during this scene. Lawd Jesus in the manger. It was poignant, thoughtful and he was so raw. Excellent. I do predict that she is going to discover she is a spitting image of his wife or something because right now he is pretty awesome. 

Nova is apparently “Free” now. Why, you ask? Ms. Chantal. We saw this coming a mile away last week. So they had relations, picked herbs out the garden, smoked herb, made breakfast, went to an art show- I mean like a whole RELATIONSHIP. I would like to point out that she has maybe 0% body fat and her skin looks like velvet. What is she using? Shea, coconut oil, baby lotion? I need answers. Beautiful skin and toned body aside, she is AWFUL! How in the hell of life can you NOT BE SORRY for stealing $. Girl! She is super self righteous, throws Charley’s relationship in her face and is kind of snide. She has a redeeming moment with Hollywood’s wife, but I didn’t like her this episode at all. Well, except when her super pro black chick exposed sheltered like my great grandma’s china, Micah, to the perils of black men through an art exhibit by BMike. His Instagram is bmike2c. 

Ralph Angel – in all his fine glory is hanging with Blue when the P.O. drops in for a home visit. We find out a lot. Aunt Vi has legal custody for another year. Ralph Angel has to have gainful employment with 40 hrs min. wage and insurance and the place where he used to work had a bust and all those guys are facing 5-10 years so he was “laid off” just in time. When Charley has her tantrum at the restaurant he has his interest piqued by Roberta who is super skanky. Once Aunt Vi arrives for her last check we find out info regarding Blue’s mama. Apparently, Hollywood found her turning tricks in a shed when Blue was a baby. Blue was dehydrated and dirty with the sweat from his mama’s  John pouring down on his helpless baby self. WHAT IN THE ENTIRE WORLD!?! No wonder Ralph Angel hates her. Aunt Vi refuses to sign over guardianship and I don’t blame her. Ralph Angel isn’t proving himself as super responsible and no one wants Blue in danger again. Of course Skanky Roberta comes over randomly and is told to “clean up” before they sleep together. This man is too wild. 

Aunt Vi is so excited and amped to have Hollywood back. She can’t keep her hands off of him and is preparing for a huge bash in his honor. She even puts on a very inappropriate for her age dress to celebrate. Vi is completely unaware of Leann, but Micah hears Hollywood asking Leann to stop calling him. When Leann shows up at the party broken and sad, Vi assumes she is lost. Leann needs her meds and everyone is crushed during the last 5 minutes of the show. Yes, Hollywood lied and I am not for liars, but he was so hurt that this happened and I don’t think he had malicious intentions. Vi is publicly shamed. Everyone is shocked. And Leann is being rocked by Nova who is probably trying to transfer positive spiritual energy to her. Talk about a crazy let down. Vi tells Hollywood not to come back and Micah steps in and says he will take care of her. When Vi told Charley earlier that “things aren’t always what they seem” that was hella foreshadowing. 

The imagery this week was gorgeous. I mean that tree Micah and Charley sat under- my gosh. The back stories were very helpful to the storyline and characterization. My only hope is this storm doesn’t come and wash away all of Remy’s bootleg seeds. 

Stay tuned in,


Queen Sugar Episode 6- WOW

This week opens with Nova is doing a radio interview about her newspaper article. The deejays bring up her BIL Davis and Reagan Gomez’s character “Chantal” who is a part of BLM, can sense her stress and helps change the topic. Callers are calling in asking about Davis and the rape charge while Charley is listening at home and gets upset. Anddddd Nova basically takes “Goldy’s” side because she talks about the importance of rape victims coming forward and Charley assumes she is accusing Davis. Chantal shows heavy interest in Nova. Like HEAVY. As in, they may be FWB in next week’s show. Too Sweet calls Nova collect to give her info on what is going on in jail. He asks all the important questions and she has no answers. She is saddened and angry. She and Davis have an an exchange later in the show where she basically reads his priveleged behind. There is a fundamental difference in how black men are treated, however, can we acknowledge it all sucks any damn way. In her guilt and anger after their convo, she ‘borrows’ money from the farm account to post bail for Too Sweet to the tune of 10k. I am sure this is going to be a ginormous problem when the siblings find out. 

Aunt Vi is being the peacemaker this episode and smooths everything over. She basically wears a cape the entire time. She is taking Blue to church and Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory- gives her some $ for lunch. He also has a new phone, which all show his illegal activities are keeping $ in his pockets. Aunt Vi is far from a fool and knows he is up to no good and saves his entire behind. She side eyes him when he tells her he is locking up the shed to protect farm equipment. Luckily, she knows better. 

Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory- is continuing to deal with this jerkface Melvin at his job who wants him to hide stolen goods at the farm. I almost want his mean pull a gun on a dude demeanor to come out because this is too much. Once he stands up for himself he and the guy get into a physical altercation and he essentially gets jumped at work. Their beyond terrible boss tells him to get back to work and Ralph Angel tells him he can’t work there anymore. He wants a lay off and the boss says no. He says he will tell his PO that the boss is stealing $ from his check. The boss shoos him away. The police come to search the house that night because of theft accusations (boss? Melvin? Unclear) and thanks to Nosey Nu Nu Aunt Vi, she has taken the stolen wares and flung them in the bayou. Saving the day and Ralph Angel. Yayyyyyy. Hopefully he learns and stops. Geez. 

Charley is still working on getting her life together- farm and husband. She is presented with an idea from Remy about planting the sugar cane seed he has created. He wants to give it to her for free to test it out. None of the other farmers have shown interest so ummm yeah. Charley lashes out at Nova regarding the radio interview. Remy is standing there gobsmacked and after Charley says the prostitute wants 3 million, Aunt Vi says, “That is one expensive piece of ass” FOOLYWANG. They need a farm manager so Prosper comes to meet with them and while at dinner we find out Remy has lost his wife and is a widower. Prosper agrees to help, but shows concern about the family’s lack of confidence and commitment to farm life. He does mention that their daddy wanted them to work together. Sad face. Charley gets played by every man in her life when she helps with seed day- Remy, Micah and Davis are all super pressed that she actively participates in any form of manual labor. Davis can see the attraction / tension between Remy and Charley. Charley seems flushed at their introduction and Remy runs to get a hot link. LOL

And now for the moment we have all been waiting for- Drumroll please. The meeting with Melina. Davis tells Charley before they go in that he doesn’t know what she will say and holds his stance on the fact that he didn’t rape her. Charley says, I know and grabs his hand as they go into the room with all of the attorneys. It seems at this point the check will be given and he will apologize and BOOM- Melina begins to speak and I tell you I was on the edge of my seat, mouth wide open like what in the entire hell. Davis didn’t rape her. That much is true. But, this dude is a low down, dirty rotten scoundrel. They have been in a relationship for 3 years. WHAT! That night he left her in the hotel room she was carried into because he had to rush home due to Micah being sick. The other ball players did rape her and said Davis told them to have a go at her. She was hurt because of their “relationship” and she assumed as his mistress that she shouldn’t have been passed around. Other players came in the room and raped her as well. The number is unclear. Davis called her when she came forward to the press and she recorded their call. When she pulled that phone out you could have sold me for a quarter. In a very Trumplike manner he disgustingly played her, talked down to her and basically said he pays her to shut up and do what his wife won’t do. Charley was shook. I thought she was going to puke. All she could do was apologize and run out of the room. I wasn’t paying attention to the DVR so when her last words were “We’re over!” and the elevator doors closed I was pissed that the episode was done. I can’t believe it. I swore she was pregnant. Melina did get her voice heard and proved what she said a few shows ago about Charley not knowing her husband. Insert the Florida Evans, “Damn, damn, damn” here. 

So we are midway through the season and what a wild ride. Thus far, the women all save the day and the men are sideline peeps awaiting help. Well, with the exception of Remy and sometimes Hollywood, who is still super suspect to me. 

What’s next? Nova and Chantal? Because clearly Boo is gone. Nova getting in trouble with her siblings for STEALING! Ralph Angel finally staying out of trouble? And where is Blue’s mama- did I miss something? I know one thing – this daggone sugar cane better grow!!! 

Keep watching, 


What in the entire heck…Queen Sugar Episode 5

This week- Nova and Boo get into it about her writing a front page story about the police force. He is upset about the fact that he decided to sneak her into the hospital and she used the patient as writing material. Boo is mad because he comes from a police family. They both have a good argument- police families pray their families return and black families pray their families return= stalemate. Later, Nova is selling weed to some dude with thot dots at her door when Boo shows up. He lets her know that she is a PART OF THE PROBLEM by selling weed to the boys she wrote about. They have weed on them- get busted by the cops- get time. DAMN. Oh and Boo loves her apparently. And he called her a peddler. So many one liners in the show! He tells her she never wanted a relationship, which is why he was chosen since he is a white married cop. He tells her she only wanted company. She asks for her key. He obliged. Funny how he is concerned about his feelings, but not his wife’s. Duh. 

Charley is dealing with various scenarios. Micah obviously needs to interview for another private school since he is currently a Beauty School Dropout. This crazy wife / manager goes to Goldy’s house and she is living large and in charge BTW. They exchange words- one of the main ones being “raped”. Charley basically tells the chick to beat it and the chick tells Charley – nope. I think she goes to the house as the wife though and not the manager. Only to be told that she doesn’t know anything about her husband. Womp. Womp. The attorney is frustrated with her for doing this and actually goes as far to compare Davis to OJ. WTH! She wants and needs a tractor for the farm and finds out from Remy that a tractor is 200k. The farm manager that Remy finds is mean as an old rattlesnake and does not want to help AT ALL. Charley lets people get the best of her at the auction and doesn’t try to get her dad’s tractor back. Remy gets frustrated because she wastes $ and tells her no one will respect her going forward. The farm manager quits and Remy apologizes and lets her know he purchased her dad’s tractor. Super sweet. Micah’s dad is frustrated because his son isn’t chasing up behind him. Micah calls his mom because he needs to get away from the media and Becky with the good hair. They agree to move South temporarily. When the phone rings again Charley thinks it is her son BUT it is Goldy who wants 3 million. Yes. Three. Million. And she wants to talk to Davis face to face. Super crazy! Three. Million. Dollars. These prostitutes out here set tripping. FOR REAL. 

Aunt Vi is dealing with this young fool who thinks he can boss her around and talk to her any kind of way. He embarrasses her in front of her girlfriends as they were hanging out and talking about #blackgirlmagic -In the meantime Hollywood’s “wife” played by Maxine Shaw- ha, I mean – Erika Alexander, is in the daggone psych ward. She is bi-polar and suicidal. She wants him and he is only letting her use his health insurance. He has clearly moved on and he convinces his “wife” to just be that on paper for medical purposes. Vi is completely unaware of this scenario and is already having a terrible day when she calls him thinking he is at work when he is actually at the hospital. She goes home and gets high with her nieces. Weed provided by Nova- who also admits she is bisexual in a strange way that almost seems like this small southern family is ok with Nova’s sexuality. Aunt Vi quits her job after telling the fake DeBarge boss she needs to quit in order to save his life. I laughed. Then watched that part again. LOL. 

Ralph Angel – in all his fine glory- has his check shortened by 8 hours and is told, “Freedom ain’t free” by his boss. The dude who already mixed him up with the bogus sugar cane is trying to convince him to wiggle and worm and steal. He tells him no! This dude is just super shady. The dude slips product in his bag in the locker and Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory takes it. I wanted to throw the remote at the TV! 

Great episode. More analysis and characterization. Beautiful camera angles. Man vs. nature, society, man, himself and moral are all evident conflicts. What’s next?!? I SWEAR RALPH ANGEL IS GONNA GET CAUGHT. 

Stay tuned in, 

Change is Good

Back a few months ago I was all worked up about changing the baby’s daycare. Well, I am here to tell you…BEST DECISION EVER!!!

His behavior is back to normal. No more cursing. No more fighting. He is happy. 

It is a super LOVING environment. I can watch him online. They send pics and videos allllll day. The staff is friendly and happy. I love it. He loves it. My husband loves it. 

He is now enrolled in soccer and gymnastics while at school- for additional fees of course, but it saves me from running around like a chicken with my head cut off- wait, I do that anyway. LOL

Follow your first mind, follow your heart, God answers prayers. We were on this waiting list when I was pregnant and now it has worked out for my little family. 

Stay faithful. 



Must Watch TV

Please watch This is Us. Awesome show. Great acting. Feel good storylines. Reminds me of watching Thirtysomething with my mom a million years ago. I may recap. Not sure yet. 

blackish of course is still an all time fav of mine. They are funny, aware, witty and just good family fun. 

My cooking shows are: The Chew, Pioneer Woman, Dinner at Tiffani’s, Tia Mowry at Home and Trisha’s Southern Cooking. I love to cook so cooking shows may not be your thing. 

I DVR because my life is nuts. You may have more you watch, but this little list plus HGTV, all things Kardashian and Queen Sugar pretty much sums up my TV life. Oh and Paw Patrol. Insert eye roll. 



Queen Sugar Episode 4

Ok, so I am totally going to backtrack and recap the first 3 episodes, but this idea popped in my head today to do show recaps so YAY! 

It opens with Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory- at the bank signing off on the 100k Charley has deposited so he can get the farm going. 
He runs into Remy- AKA Vanessa’s boyfriend Robert from The Cosby Show– who questions him about the cane seed. Since Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory- is easily pissed, he gets miffed and says he has everything under control- come to find out he doesn’t and he didn’t do what he needed to and buys bogus cane that is diseased with a fungus. WTH! They have 800 acres, which is A LOT of land, but only plan to farm 300. Now they are out of 15k and technically it is all his fault. Just for reference 10 acres is about 7 and 1/2 football fields. So you can do the math. This is a TON of land. 

Meanwhile, Charley is dealing w her cheater Peter husband and all his drama. She gets tested for STDs in a super cute hot pink tissue gown- my dr’s office has nothing like that, but anyhoo. She is confident and scared and nervous and judged all in that scene. And the best line from this week’s episode was, “You got me out here looking crazy because of some ho named Goldy!” Come to find out Goldy’s not a simple minded prostitute. Davis, Charley and their new creepy old lady shady attorney think she will take a plea deal and we find out Goldy said, nah, nope, I’m straight on 500k so who knows what this call girl really wants. Or is she pregnant or something? Charley stays in the loop of what is happening in LA (Louisiana) while in LA (Los Angeles) by talking to Remy. It is clear they like each other and I am sure he wants to take her on a date. 

Micah and his girlfriend Stella are caught up in teenage foolishness. And Becky with the good hair apparently cheats on him and it is clearly with another black boy who sends a lewd pic to her phone. Her old witchy poo mama finds out and tells with the assumption that the black nakedness belongs to Micah, but it doesn’t. Charley rushes to the principal’s office for a meeting with Becky with the good hair, her mama and Micah. Only to find out zero tolerance and Micah is expelled. Micah runs out crying and upset that his beloved girlfriend has cheated on him after he tells her he loves her. Charley can’t “manage” that part of his life and has to be a mom, get in their chauffered SUV and head home to their palatial estate. Which is a juxtaposition of the Bordelon quarters down south. 

Nova is working on a story that completely ties in with #blacklivesmatter. The writing of this part of the show is great. Nova chases stories about underprivileged and villified black young men, which is interesteing seeing as how she sleeps with a white man and according to Ralph Angel-in all his fine glory- she only came to see him twice while he was locked up. Are her storylines and headlines for attention, running away from her own life, self-hatred, displacement, guilt, what?!?! Her story is amazing and powerful and the family members give her props. 

Blue learned 10 colors at school and is still chubby and cute. 

Aunt Vi and Hollywood are cute, but I am starting to think he is suspect. He has to go out for a job for two weeks and she doesn’t want him to leave her. They connect and tie it to her grief of her brother and in the end she makes him a pie and wishes him well. After all old ppl it is only 2 weeks. Unless Aunt Vi’s spidey senses are going off. 

Nova apologizes to Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory- and the family prepares for dinner while listening to Frankie Beverly’s “Before I Let Go”. I was wondering why no one checked on Blue in the bathroom though. 

So do you think they can pull off this farm? 
Will Charley head back South? 

And seriously, what does Goldy want? 



No sippy cup- the rest of the week update. 

Things got really bad, but eventually better. Night 4 was the worst night of all. I think he wanted an Oscar or a BET Award or something. The last two nights have been better, not awesome, better. He went from being a kid who woke allllll the damn time to having a sleeping stint last night from 3:23 am until 8:15 am. In this house that is a Christmas miracle Tiny Tim! 

I am a lot more tired and exhausted because he is crying, fretting, flipping around and whatnot. I believe in progress and we have made some. It is far from perfect, but around these parts my life focuses on Grace, not perfection. 

I have modified the plan a bit and allow one cup at 3 am. I figure hell, that isn’t terrible in comparison to what was going on and frankly if he can go from 8 pm til 3 am with no cup then I am proud of him for that. I will drop that cup eventually. It has a splash of milk anyway so maybe he will give up on it. 

So cheers. Cheers to figuring things out. Cheers to babies growing up. Cheers to mommies working hard. Cheers to daddies realizing it. And most of all- cheers to the holiday wknd. 



Reasons. Seasons. Lifetime. 

Change is hard. Change is good. At the end of the day- change is DIFFERENT! 

Everyone has heard the saying that is the title of this post and it is applicable to life in many ways. Clears throat-men, friends, jobs, stylists, co-workers and in the case of my household: daycare. 

My son is 2.9 1/2 and in annoying Mom terms he will be 3 at the end of August LOL. For the last 2.3 years of his short life he has been in one school. A school that saved us from a season of at home day care, a school that has nurtured developed and been a part of his many firsts. A school that has opened its doors and the teachers their hearts for my sweet boy. And now his time is done there. 

I have watched and learned and figured out his method of learning and engagment. I have discovered his method of “trouble” and decisions that lead to him not listening. My husband has been frustrated. I have been frustrated. And the best decision is for him to go somewhere else. I will forever love his school and his teachers have been awesome, but as his mom I know he needs something more. Learn by play isn’t cutting it for my little smarty pants. 

I am filled with apprehension and anxiety, but I am always like that. I am concerned about him making friends, liking the staff, learning and being ok. No one ever tells you about the worry and gray hairs from the first two years of being a mom. Big ol sigh. 

I have faith. I have support and I know that he will LOVE his new school. Plus, I can watch them online whenever I want, which I think is a plus and minus for me. Well them. I mean me. :) 

I hope that my reason for choosing this new season for his life will build memories that will last a lifetime. That is all I can ask for, pray for and seek. 

xoxo- Fabmommy

No sippy cups. Nights 2 &3. 

Well, the fact that he “gets it” is the problem now. Big sigh. 

Night two- while it still wasn’t terrible or anything like stories that I have heard, it was still a pain in my behind. He went down with no problems, but that has always been the case. When he didn’t get a cup for his first wake up around 11:30, he was PISSED. He let me know it too. A lot more shrieking, screeching howler monkey behavior and overall having me question why I was making all of us suffer. BUT, it only lasted maybe 3-4 minutes, which is the good part. There was some random talking in his sleep around 3 am, but he didn’t rouse himself and slept until the morning. 

Night three- Lord, last night, I wanted to run away from home. Problem is-his logic has kicked in. So with me saying, “no more milk” he decided to ask for everything under the sun: juice, Gatorade, juice box and even hot coffee (he helps my husband with his every morning). He went down late though at 9:15. I simply lost track of time. He woke up at 11:52 and cried and begged for random beverages until 11:58. Fell asleep. Woke back up at 12:30 acting like a complete fool and having a meltdown about his ceiling fan being on and Woody from Toy Story not having on a blanket. He finally went back down at 1:15. It was madness. He wasn’t crying. He was just up. Plotting. Against. Me. The next encounter wasn’t until 4:08 and it lasted all of four minutes, but it was loud as all hell. 

Overall, I am super amazed by the progress. I am tired though. He used to get a cup and go right back to sleep. Now all the night time shenanigans are foolish. I know he will get better and better as it goes on. I didn’t bend. He did not get a cup!!! I guess I am proud of the both of us. :)