Why I LOVE this ManĀ 

Let me count the ways. 

He made me proud. 

He gave me hope. 

He is smart and funny. 

He helped me help young children believe. 

He went above and beyond my expectations. 

I love the way he loves. 

I love the way he parents. 

He is well-read and well-spoken. 

I respect him. And I truly am grateful he came into my life. 

Love you, Obama! Thanks for EVERYTHING!!!


Word for the Year

Happy New Year!

In planner and blogger land it is pretty important to have a “word of the year”. It determines plans, becomes your mantra and sets your path. 

My word that I have chosen is … drumroll please…


I chose this word not in the negative sense, but in the sense of me examining and figuring out a better fit and application for my life. Does this apply to friends? No, I got rid of most of the jerks already. I want to re-evaluate my spendingšŸ˜’, time managementšŸ•°, time spent with family, activities with my husband and baby, my home routinesšŸ , self carešŸ’šŸ½, a lot of stuff. 

So, the task is at hand. Figure out your word. Post in the comments. We will hold you accountable. Promise. 

xoxo, Fabmommy 

My Fave- Pasta Salad

I am putting this here for two reasons. 

1. So people can make it themselves. LOLOL

2. To have it as a reference point and actually written down somewhere. 

I LOVE to cook. I have been in the kitchen since I was young with my Mom and I would just watch. My Mom never cooked with recipes and I don’t either, but since people ask- I try to keep track when I make stuff so I can spread the love. 

I have been making this for parties for legit at least 12-14 years. Super easy. Can be easily changed and added to and is DELISH. 

I make them for every party and I usually have requests at least 5x a year for various events. I am super particular about the ingredients. So don’t be a cheapo! 


1 box of Barilla tri color rotini

1 bottle of Wishbone Italian 

4 Roma tomatoes

1 cucumber

Seasonings: Kosher salt, pepper, Salad Supreme, crushed red pepper 

Boil pasta – be sure to add table salt to the water and a bit of vegetable oil. 

Dice veggies, add to bowl / pan and add dressing so it can marinate. Add seasonings to taste. 

Drain pasta and add. 

Can be prepped the night before. I used to add cheese, but my son has a dairy allergy. But I have added: broccoli, zucchini, lunch meat, olives, red onions, banana peppers, pretty much anything- up to you. 

Enjoy. Fabmommy 

Hash Brown CasseroleĀ 

Ingredients-1 bag of hash brown potatoes in refrigerator section. You can use southwestern for extra kick

1 bag of triple cheddar cheese

1/2 green pepper diced

1/4 onion diced

1 container sour cream

1 can cream of chicken 

Seasonings- Lawry’s, garlic powder, pepper

Mix all ingredients in a bowl- add to pan (sprayed) and put in oven on 350 covered with foil. Take foil off after an hour put oven on broil or turn up degrees for last 15 minutes. 
The recipe can easily be doubled. 

Happy Holidays. Fabmommy 

The Interview

The Oprah and Michelle Obama interview was EVERYTHING! I proudly watched two women I admire greatly just sitting around chatting as girlfriends do. It was authentic, poignant, thoughtful and sweet. I LOVED IT! I am so happy and so proud. I recorded it and can’t wait to watch it again. Black Girls Really Are MAGIC! Yesssss! 

If you didn’t watch the interview- please please please watch. It is awesome. 


Elfin AroundĀ 

Our elf, Julius, has been back since 12/1. This year seems a bit more interesting mainly because a certain 3 yr old is really into the holiday season and especially Julius. I have discovered however that the mischief that the elves are supposed to bring is not really celebrated by my child. So I switched it up and Julius is super nice. Here are a few pics of what Julius has been up to lately. 

And yes, my elf is a lil brown boy. Duh. I prefer the plush elves- they don’t look creepy as all hell. 

Happy Holidays, 


Crock Pot Chicken Enchiladas

Ingredients:2 lbs of chicken breasts 

1 Small diced onion

Enchilada sauce 2 cans 

Green chiles 1 tiny can 

Lime juice

Seasonings- salt(I only use Kosher and Pink Himalayan for cooking and table salt for baking) pepper, Lawry’s, garlic powder, crushed red pepper

Flour tortillas

Shredded cheese- I usually buy Kraft the taco mix kind

Lettuce, tomato and whatever other toppings you like. 

In the crock pot- please use crock pot bags they are lifesavers- put half a can of enchilada sauce, the onion and 1/3 of the green chiles. Next add chicken breasts, season them, cover with the remaining enchilada sauce add a few squirts of lime juice. If need be, open the other can of enchilada sauce and add half. It really depends on how big your chicken breasts are and the crock pot. 

I do this before work so I let it cook 6 hours. Shred the chicken and get to rolling the enchiladas. In a glass baking dish add some enchilada sauce and place a tortilla, add some shredded chicken, and cheese then ROLL. Keep doing this until complete. Top with cheese and foil. Bake at 350 for 30 minutes or until cheese is bubbly. I take the remaining enchilada sauce and pour on top once complete. 

Enjoy. xoxo, Fabmommy

Easy Pasta Recipe

I know. I know. Queen Sugar recap is coming. I am just rewatching certain parts. Anyhoo, easy pasta. I love carbs. I love excuses for garlic bread and I love fast and quick recipes that are toddler approved. 


Small onion- diced

Half a green pepper- diced

1 package of mild Italian sausage

3/4 box of Barilla Penne pasta

1 jar of Ragu chunky style with tomatoes and onions

Seasonings- black pepper, garlic powder, Lawry’s, crushed red pepper, Italian seasoning, Oregano

In a large pot add olive oil and saute the veggies, add the cut Italian sausage and brown. 

While this is going on boil your noodles so they will be ready. Add a pinch of salt to your water. 

Once the sausage is browned, pour off excess oil and add the jar of sauce. Then fill the jar up maybe 1/3 of the way with water. Shake and add to the pot. Add all seasonings and let simmer. I am a heavy seasoner because no one in this house is afraid of spice- kid included. 

Rinse cooked noodles in cooled water and add to pot. Put the top on and make some garlic bread. A great meal in less than an hour. 



P. S. Le Creuset pots are the BEST cookware around. This set is literally 28 years old. My dad bought it for my mom when we went to Disney when I was 9. I have my own as well in purple, lavender and I am asking for teal for Christmas. šŸ˜‰

Queen Sugar TailspinĀ 

Ahhhh Queen Sugar. This week, which I am pretty much calling ‘Charley and the Angry Ponytail’, opens with Charley in the fetal position not answering any of Aunt Vi’s probing questions. Micah is exposed to far too much and Ralph Angel managed to get even finer this episode. Aunt Vi is heartbroken, Nova is irritating as all hell and Remy is just a super duper do gooder. Oh, and to top it all off: a storm is coming. Lets dive into it. 

Charley is in a chair depressed thinking about just how terrible her husband is and gets a case of the sads. Aunt Vi wants to help, but in a very Carrie after Big ditched her at the altar scene- Charley just can’t deal. Vi goes to “get her feet done” since Hollywood is coming back. She is such an old lady. LOL. Charley gets dressed for the day and even though I loved her blazer A. It is hot in LA and B. I didn’t want to see her in it the ENTIRE day. Geez. Anyhoo, she goes to talk to Micah letting him know his dad sucks and they will stay. Micah is upset, rightfully so and goes into the typical teenage angst. She then discovers when trying to make a payment for farm equipment that her account is popped. Allllll because of Nova. She storms over and gives her a full piece of her mind. After meeting with her uber annoying sister she heads to breakfast with Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory. This only leads to her thinking he is trying to use her since he now needs employment per his P.O. She basically has a tantrum, storms out, lashes out and is comforted by Remy who apologizes for everyone who doesn’t. WHATTTT! Super sweet. Her funk (both assumed because of that hot blazer and attitude) continues throughout the day even into Hollywood’s Crab Boil Welcome Back Fest. Remy tells her she hasn’t grieved. He discussed his wife and talked about how you have to let grief have its way with you and respect it. The amount of tears I shed during this scene. Lawd Jesus in the manger. It was poignant, thoughtful and he was so raw. Excellent. I do predict that she is going to discover she is a spitting image of his wife or something because right now he is pretty awesome. 

Nova is apparently “Free” now. Why, you ask? Ms. Chantal. We saw this coming a mile away last week. So they had relations, picked herbs out the garden, smoked herb, made breakfast, went to an art show- I mean like a whole RELATIONSHIP. I would like to point out that she has maybe 0% body fat and her skin looks like velvet. What is she using? Shea, coconut oil, baby lotion? I need answers. Beautiful skin and toned body aside, she is AWFUL! How in the hell of life can you NOT BE SORRY for stealing $. Girl! She is super self righteous, throws Charley’s relationship in her face and is kind of snide. She has a redeeming moment with Hollywood’s wife, but I didn’t like her this episode at all. Well, except when her super pro black chick exposed sheltered like my great grandma’s china, Micah, to the perils of black men through an art exhibit by BMike. His Instagram is bmike2c. 

Ralph Angel – in all his fine glory is hanging with Blue when the P.O. drops in for a home visit. We find out a lot. Aunt Vi has legal custody for another year. Ralph Angel has to have gainful employment with 40 hrs min. wage and insurance and the place where he used to work had a bust and all those guys are facing 5-10 years so he was “laid off” just in time. When Charley has her tantrum at the restaurant he has his interest piqued by Roberta who is super skanky. Once Aunt Vi arrives for her last check we find out info regarding Blue’s mama. Apparently, Hollywood found her turning tricks in a shed when Blue was a baby. Blue was dehydrated and dirty with the sweat from his mama’s  John pouring down on his helpless baby self. WHAT IN THE ENTIRE WORLD!?! No wonder Ralph Angel hates her. Aunt Vi refuses to sign over guardianship and I don’t blame her. Ralph Angel isn’t proving himself as super responsible and no one wants Blue in danger again. Of course Skanky Roberta comes over randomly and is told to “clean up” before they sleep together. This man is too wild. 

Aunt Vi is so excited and amped to have Hollywood back. She can’t keep her hands off of him and is preparing for a huge bash in his honor. She even puts on a very inappropriate for her age dress to celebrate. Vi is completely unaware of Leann, but Micah hears Hollywood asking Leann to stop calling him. When Leann shows up at the party broken and sad, Vi assumes she is lost. Leann needs her meds and everyone is crushed during the last 5 minutes of the show. Yes, Hollywood lied and I am not for liars, but he was so hurt that this happened and I don’t think he had malicious intentions. Vi is publicly shamed. Everyone is shocked. And Leann is being rocked by Nova who is probably trying to transfer positive spiritual energy to her. Talk about a crazy let down. Vi tells Hollywood not to come back and Micah steps in and says he will take care of her. When Vi told Charley earlier that “things aren’t always what they seem” that was hella foreshadowing. 

The imagery this week was gorgeous. I mean that tree Micah and Charley sat under- my gosh. The back stories were very helpful to the storyline and characterization. My only hope is this storm doesn’t come and wash away all of Remy’s bootleg seeds. 

Stay tuned in,


Queen Sugar Episode 6- WOW

This week opens with Nova is doing a radio interview about her newspaper article. The deejays bring up her BIL Davis and Reagan Gomez’s character “Chantal” who is a part of BLM, can sense her stress and helps change the topic. Callers are calling in asking about Davis and the rape charge while Charley is listening at home and gets upset. Anddddd Nova basically takes “Goldy’s” side because she talks about the importance of rape victims coming forward and Charley assumes she is accusing Davis. Chantal shows heavy interest in Nova. Like HEAVY. As in, they may be FWB in next week’s show. Too Sweet calls Nova collect to give her info on what is going on in jail. He asks all the important questions and she has no answers. She is saddened and angry. She and Davis have an an exchange later in the show where she basically reads his priveleged behind. There is a fundamental difference in how black men are treated, however, can we acknowledge it all sucks any damn way. In her guilt and anger after their convo, she ‘borrows’ money from the farm account to post bail for Too Sweet to the tune of 10k. I am sure this is going to be a ginormous problem when the siblings find out. 

Aunt Vi is being the peacemaker this episode and smooths everything over. She basically wears a cape the entire time. She is taking Blue to church and Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory- gives her some $ for lunch. He also has a new phone, which all show his illegal activities are keeping $ in his pockets. Aunt Vi is far from a fool and knows he is up to no good and saves his entire behind. She side eyes him when he tells her he is locking up the shed to protect farm equipment. Luckily, she knows better. 

Ralph Angel- in all his fine glory- is continuing to deal with this jerkface Melvin at his job who wants him to hide stolen goods at the farm. I almost want his mean pull a gun on a dude demeanor to come out because this is too much. Once he stands up for himself he and the guy get into a physical altercation and he essentially gets jumped at work. Their beyond terrible boss tells him to get back to work and Ralph Angel tells him he can’t work there anymore. He wants a lay off and the boss says no. He says he will tell his PO that the boss is stealing $ from his check. The boss shoos him away. The police come to search the house that night because of theft accusations (boss? Melvin? Unclear) and thanks to Nosey Nu Nu Aunt Vi, she has taken the stolen wares and flung them in the bayou. Saving the day and Ralph Angel. Yayyyyyy. Hopefully he learns and stops. Geez. 

Charley is still working on getting her life together- farm and husband. She is presented with an idea from Remy about planting the sugar cane seed he has created. He wants to give it to her for free to test it out. None of the other farmers have shown interest so ummm yeah. Charley lashes out at Nova regarding the radio interview. Remy is standing there gobsmacked and after Charley says the prostitute wants 3 million, Aunt Vi says, “That is one expensive piece of ass” FOOLYWANG. They need a farm manager so Prosper comes to meet with them and while at dinner we find out Remy has lost his wife and is a widower. Prosper agrees to help, but shows concern about the family’s lack of confidence and commitment to farm life. He does mention that their daddy wanted them to work together. Sad face. Charley gets played by every man in her life when she helps with seed day- Remy, Micah and Davis are all super pressed that she actively participates in any form of manual labor. Davis can see the attraction / tension between Remy and Charley. Charley seems flushed at their introduction and Remy runs to get a hot link. LOL

And now for the moment we have all been waiting for- Drumroll please. The meeting with Melina. Davis tells Charley before they go in that he doesn’t know what she will say and holds his stance on the fact that he didn’t rape her. Charley says, I know and grabs his hand as they go into the room with all of the attorneys. It seems at this point the check will be given and he will apologize and BOOM- Melina begins to speak and I tell you I was on the edge of my seat, mouth wide open like what in the entire hell. Davis didn’t rape her. That much is true. But, this dude is a low down, dirty rotten scoundrel. They have been in a relationship for 3 years. WHAT! That night he left her in the hotel room she was carried into because he had to rush home due to Micah being sick. The other ball players did rape her and said Davis told them to have a go at her. She was hurt because of their “relationship” and she assumed as his mistress that she shouldn’t have been passed around. Other players came in the room and raped her as well. The number is unclear. Davis called her when she came forward to the press and she recorded their call. When she pulled that phone out you could have sold me for a quarter. In a very Trumplike manner he disgustingly played her, talked down to her and basically said he pays her to shut up and do what his wife won’t do. Charley was shook. I thought she was going to puke. All she could do was apologize and run out of the room. I wasn’t paying attention to the DVR so when her last words were “We’re over!” and the elevator doors closed I was pissed that the episode was done. I can’t believe it. I swore she was pregnant. Melina did get her voice heard and proved what she said a few shows ago about Charley not knowing her husband. Insert the Florida Evans, “Damn, damn, damn” here. 

So we are midway through the season and what a wild ride. Thus far, the women all save the day and the men are sideline peeps awaiting help. Well, with the exception of Remy and sometimes Hollywood, who is still super suspect to me. 

What’s next? Nova and Chantal? Because clearly Boo is gone. Nova getting in trouble with her siblings for STEALING! Ralph Angel finally staying out of trouble? And where is Blue’s mama- did I miss something? I know one thing – this daggone sugar cane better grow!!! 

Keep watching,